A soul was born empty and as such, was alone on its long journey into creation. This soul was blind, and perceiving itself as without a body floated aimlessly into the solitude of the deep. And so it was, hoping to find hope and a meaning for an existence without embodiment. The darkness was forever, and its vastness great; and in all the space of time and movement for which this soul found itself floating, there was nothing and no one that could look upon this soul and describe to it what its appearance was. In solitude it motioned through the black universe waiting to feel the sensation of touch which would confirm its existence to itself in the absence of another. The thoughts of this solitary new born as it moved into existence were as follows: I am moving through the darkness. I can feel myself, but, where am I? I feel the black vast void and try to reach out to touch something.I can’t find my sense of touch, where am I? What am I? I have to ask myself………. How did this happen? Where did I originate? What is this place? Why do I feel that I must see something that will teach me who I am, what I am, and where I am. The only thing

Power must be truly earned if it is to last. Think about the power you felt riding a bike; the freedom, the control in your moment on that bike. You had to exercise your mind and body to keep the wheels spinning and heading the right direction. Oh, the power of that relationship. You usually had a destination in mind before you jumped on the bike (Yes, jumped…). You had someplace, something or someone to see. You had a purpose. You were looking for fun! You experienced fun both riding the bike, and upon arriving at your destination. You felt good taking care of your own needs and desires. Occasionally you crashed your bike, but, that didn’t keep you from taking care of your need to be somewhere or with someone that brought you happiness. Did you ride your bike to: fish, swim, attend art classes, go to the library, go to a movie, buy fabric, buy music, buy a soda, play the piano, visit a relative or friend? Whatever the reason was that you rode your bike (sometimes to the point of exhaustion) you always earned power. You felt empowered taking care of the things you liked to do. Perhaps years later you rode your bike to work and the joy of the ride might have perished. Discontentment appeared

At the end of a 23 year relationship, I realized how little time I had spent with my children. I traveled extensively in my career of 18 years, with the help of my spouse during marriage, and, then a Nanny. Driving down the highway, reflecting on loneliness, I decided to change careers. I knew change was difficult and uncertain due to the divorce. My fears were quickly replaced by love for my new coffee business and sons. The excitement of building designs, family flexibility, and coffee bean selection took over. I was driven to do my best for myself, my sons, and soon to be customers. I began feeling happy and proud of daily accomplishments and decisions. I was able to make decisions I couldn’t make while working for a company for 12 years. But, I learned if I asked questions and offered to take-over work, my boss happily shared the load! I found working for myself to be very stimulating. I didn’t hand-off the little stuff because I saw those details ensured success. I was painting a picture and all of the details had to be completed by me. Then, I could share the picture with my employees. I taught them every aspect, and when I was gone for weeks, the shop ran fine with a little help from

What will you do for desire?   Tying the knot can mean many things, including getting married as one satisfies a lifelong desire.  Hope that life suddenly improves upon exchanging rings and vows. Do you honestly believe that you have instant control of the relationship?  Or that your partner is forever officially sealed in love by the ring?  How can that be so? Only you can make it so by fueling your desires together.   Vows are only valuable when you create values together.  If one relies on the other to fill a need, then there is an abuse of control.  The expecting person may have failed to take care of their own need, and looks to the other to provide that need.  Why do we assume a man is to provide everything?  What a hefty burden, growing-up with that expectation.  In his mind, he knows he may not be anymore capable than the young lassie, sitting next to him.  In fact, he may think she is so cute and smart and he likes that.  Those traits fuel his desire for her.  Someday he may marry her, and would provide all that he can for her, knowing she can provide for herself.  A man wants to provide his woman everything because it feels good to do so.  On the other